Bhut Malumz Publications

Soulmates are one persons in Komani who experience barrier to entry but Unathi Debese and Siphosothando Qomfo have proved otherwise.

When most people believe that their potential lovers are yet to clash with them on the corner of school premises and pick their books up, or they will lock eyes at a retail store and the rest will be history, these two killed those dynamics. A Facebook post became a park where their love took off over six months ago. I had the privilege of talking to Unathi Debese about their relationship with Siphosothando Qomfo from its grey parts to the purple hearts.

“So I have always had an empty space ever since my dad died and sometimes even being in a relationship never really filled that void but with Siposothando Qomfo I got a chance to open up about some of the empty space I felt. Also he had lost his father at an early age so he understood my pain and even just talking to him I felt a sense of belonging to someone cause he would simply just make it all seem perfect in an imperfect world. Ever get a feeling of praying for someone and God just give you someone who understands your pain. That was Siphosothando for me.”

In a personal level, Debese’s father’s death affected her to the core because they have shared talent, artistry. She felt like her father would understand her better than her mother who saw artistry as a hobby. Debese says that they suffered a backlash with Qomfo out of their age gap. With people saying that it’s inappropriate for her to date Qomfo, considering his age, which asked to not disclose. She added that Qomfo has been a great support system of hers.

“He has been my dream. Firstly, he understands the kind of woman I am which is I’m a hustler, so every now and then we go to town to send our CV’S for work and at times create small businesses which will help us through little things we ought to do. Just recently he was part of a protest which aimed at helping people with different social issues which he knows is close to my heart, and now with Buhle Bendalo as a whole he is there holding my hands when talking to each and every sponsor and investor who aims at being part of my event. So the way my dad understood me is how he came and understood me too plus with anything he has, he takes me to dinner dates and photoshoots. He gives me all his time and would do anything to put a smile on my face.”

She concluded by adding how much of responsible parents they are to their respective children. Debese and Qomfo had a daughter each outside of their relationship.

“We are both responsible parents to our kids and we talked about being always present so as for our children not to experience what we went through with our own lives. He takes my child as his and I’ll gladly accept his child as mine, so as much as we don’t have children together, both our daughters are part and parcel of our relationship aswell.”