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Lisa Brown answers seven burning questions about beauty, feminism, and mental health.

Q: When analysing women’s attractiveness, do you see physical beauty being put on the same pedestal as internal beauty in the 21st century?

A: No, I don’t. Why? Because when people(men) realise that a woman is intelligent, warm-hearted, etc. they tend to be intimidated by that or they easily attempt to take advantage, forgetting the fact that all they practically pray for is a woman exactly like that. I think it’s because one is not familiar with how to handle a woman that comes with internal beauty due to how they grew up. It’s called childhood trauma.

Q: With the rise of feminism, most women have denounced the word ‘hoe’ and adopted the positive front ‘sexual liberation’, which gives women control over their sexuality beyond patriarchal practices. Do you fall under such a sexual setting for women and how is it benefitting women, especially concerning the paternity of the child?

A: I would believe myself to be part of sexual liberation, yes. It’s beneficial to us from degradation because personally, I believe that is degrading one’s self-image. Now it is also easier with matters of paternity in a way that if you regard yourself as a hoe and act as one, then obviously it will be difficult for a man to play his part.

Q: What separates a hoe from a sexually liberated woman according to your last text?

A: In my opinion, I would recognise a hoe as someone who tends to have countless sexual partners with no emotional connections. I state so because sleeping with multiple people degrades you as I previously said and it also has the potential to alter your life in a way that a woman wouldn’t want. A sexually liberated woman would be a woman who has freed herself from the sexual trends of today and one of them being a hoe and flaunting it.

Q: Do you believe that childhood traumas need to be solved with therapy?

A: Definitely… But trust me, therapy is only a fraction of that journey. Healing from childhood trauma is one of the most difficult things one can do and the first big thing that you need to do is to acknowledge the fact that you have such, which many still fail to do. What they do not understand is that childhood trauma can be something as small as a parent scolding you on a random day and saying that one line that can change how you think without you even noticing that you have carried that trauma through your whole life not knowing IT IS TRAUMA.

Q: Do you agree with the notion that parents should be part of such therapy sessions to get a reflection of their parenting skills in proximity?

A: Of course. For instance, I’ve been forcing my father to attend therapy but he still refuses. Parents need to understand that it starts with them and ends with them. What use would it be to attend therapy only to go back to parents that haven’t changed one bit? Trust me it’s not gravy.

Q: What is your ideal setting for parenting?

A: Kinda broad but I’d say both parties should be healed. There should be no compromise on that. Although it takes time to heal, at least the parts that are hard to swallow should be out of the way. This is to avoid passing the trauma on to the offspring.
Secondly, both parties should be financially stable. Most couples decide to keep babies because of their belief against abortions without thinking about how important it is to raise a child in a space that is financed.
Lastly, before a baby is even made or born, how it will be raised should be discussed. Most couples tend to argue and even split due to disagreements on how to raise their child. In fact, if you’re serious with someone, I should think it’s best to discuss this issue way before you conceive, in order to compromise or part ways before it’s too late. It’s not just a baby for emotional support. It’s a human being just like you.

Q: What should a girl child be taught the most?

A: How to take care of her self-image. Literally everything can be influenced by her self-image. How she treats herself and how she treats others. I learnt this at one of the psychiatric hospitals I went to.

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